Flowers for The Prophet

Muhammad the love of Allah ... this one for you !

1. His Human Self

He was never distant from humanity. He smiled, loved, cried and felt pain. He walked, moved, ate and showered. He was a human being, so it is really applicable to follow him as a role model.

When I make a mistake or become a bit lazy about being good, Prophet Muhammad’s real model takes me back to the right track. I tell myself: “He was human, to make it easy for us. It was also difficult for him, but he made it. So, I will try again, and I will make it as he did.”

2. His Fatherhood

In a society that degraded women and rejected the birth of females to the extent that they would be buried alive, he cherished all his daughters.

Whenever Lady Fatimah drop in on one of his meetings, he never asked ask her to leave despite his business. But, he would stand up in “cherishing respect” and move to welcome her, so she would not be embarrassed. Then, he would kiss her on her forehead and have her seated next to him.

3. His Loyal Love to Lady Khadijah

The way he continued to love and cherish Lady Khadijah after her death has always been an expression of devotion in my eyes. During her life, they lived in a society that accepted men marrying multiple times. Though she was much older than him, for 25 years, he never married any other woman.

He respected and loved his wife dearly. He cherished the days after her death and would sit around with her best friend for long hours chatting about “Khadijah’s good old days”.

4. His Patience at the Deaths of his Children

We might theorize and preach about the patience of prophets, but do we really feel it? I keep wondering how this lovely, tender man tolerated the death of all his children in his lifetime. All except one. How would any father feel, when he reaches his sixties and finds himself burying one child after another?

Prophet Muhammad’s patience never contradicted his sadness and grief. When his baby son Ibrahim died, he grieved deeply. He held him in his arms at his death-bed and cried. He uttered only words that expressed his patience mixed with sadness.

His words reflected that, when he uttered his famous words: “The heart grieves, the eye tears, and for your departure, Ibrahim, we are sad. But the tongue never utters an objection that wouldn’t please God.”

5. He Was Such a Tender Grandfather

He was a busy and important man, but still had time, space and emotions to spare his grandchildren. He paused giving the Friday sermon speech in front of the Muslim nation to go down the podium and pick his grandson up.

The fact that he kept carrying this grandson throughout his speech is startling. He was the spiritual, social and political leader of the nation! What would any of our grandfathers have done if we simply burst into their meetings? I wonder.

6. His Sincere Appreciation of the Feelings of Others

There was a child who used to have a bird as a pet. Whenever Prophet Muhammad passed by the child, he would ask him about his bird.

One day, the Prophet found the child crying because of the death of his pet. Prophet Muhammad simply interrupted his journey and sat with the child to offer his condolences. It was reported that he stayed with him for a long time to soothe him.

What a sweet-hearted man! He probably had important errands or meetings to conduct, but chose to sit with a child who lost a pet. He didn’t lose his mother. It was just a bird. But Prophet Muhammad didn’t see it to be a simple loss. He understood what this loss meant to the child and felt his pain.

7. The Prophet’s Smile & Sense of Humour

Some people face worldly troubles by crying. Others express objection and the inability to accept their destiny. A third party would simply frown in the face of the world and neglect its feeling. But Prophet Muhammad never did.

He was the most agonized person. He was an orphan. He was poor. He lost his beloved wife, Khadijah. He was loaded with the responsibility of the divine message and running of a newly established state. Let alone his personal human sufferings.

Yet, he never frowned in the face of the world. He never objected to what God destined for him. He simply kept his smile and tender care for others, no matter what he went through. I pray I can keep up with him. I am not sure I can, but at least I should keep trying.

8. His Role Model as a Servant of God

Prophet Muhammad’s role model as a servant of God and worshipper is an aspect of his character that any human who wants to serve God can reconcile with. He was a man who fasted most of his days, prayed most of his nights and spent all what he had for the sake of his beloved Creator.

Yet, when some of his Companions wanted to fast all days and never eat during daylight, pray all nights and never sleep at night, or abstain from marriage and lawful relations with women, he objected to that. He explained to his Companions that he fasted some days and broke his fast on other days, he prayed much of his night time and yet he slept at night, and that he simply — like any other man — married and enjoyed marital life.

I think this is a much easier and a more practical example to follow, if we want to be good. The examples of complete self-denial and inhumanly extreme attitudes by some complete self-denial and saints and good ones isn’t really practical for all mankind. But any person, man or woman can follow the steps of Prophet Muhammad; be a spiritual worshipper and a good human simultaneously.

9. His Tenderness and Mercy Towards Animals

Again, a very personal characteristic that has always touched my heart, was his tenderness and mercy towards animals. He treated them as communities that had social ties, just as humans are to be treated.

Once, when he was travelling, some of his companions caught two young birds. Then the mother flew above their heads wailing for her two children. Prophet Muhammad immediately reacted and asked who had hurt this mother by taking her children? He ordered the two birds given back to their mother on the spot.

Thinking sincerely and deeply of animals as creatures who feel emotions, not only physics, he banned the slaughtering of any animal in front of the other. He ordered a quick death with a sharp knife away from the other animals, so that the living ones would not feel fear or panic.

He also ordered that hunting or slaughtering animals should always be for the sake and need of nutrition. He completely abandoned learning hunting or shooting by taking innocent animals as trial preys.

As an animal lover and friend who has experienced the closeness of animals, I understand what this attitude means to animals. I love animals and those who are good to animals, what about a prophet who is that good to animals? He was a prophet who cared for animals’ feelings and psychological states, and never regarded them as un-feeling bodies or unemotional creatures.

10. His Romantic Love for Lady Aishah

Last, but not least, his romantic love for Lady Aishah has always amazed me. Honestly speaking, I find this relation much more romantic than many love stories that were famous throughout history and literature of love. I mean, they were real! Many of the famous stories are novels, tales, and simply stories.

But, Prophet Muhammad and Lady Aishah’s love was real. They lived it, cherished it and practiced it, down to earth in their daily life. He loved her dearly and passionately, and she loved him back.

She — like any normal, loving woman — felt jealous for him and expressed that obviously. He also felt jealous —like any normal, loving man — and expressed it obviously. They were human in their love, not angelic.

I always recall his habit of drinking after her and I pause to smile at this habit of his. He used to search for the part that touched her lips from the utensil she used in drinking. Then, he would specifically touch the same part with his lips when he would drink. He simply enjoyed feeling her warmth.

Yet, despite his deep love to her, and his genuine passion towards her, he never permitted this love to make him neglect his duties or role as a prophet and worshipper. He would leave her warm side in the middle of the night and take her permission to pray. He would tenderly ask her: “Let me stand for my God an hour in prayers.” And, she would let him willingly and lovingly.

They lived love in their daily moments and they practiced it in every action. Their story of love did not stop at their lively moments, but continued till they departed.


peace be upon him =)


By: Dalia Salaheldin via Reading Islam

4 comment:

Fid says:
at: February 21, 2010 at 3:23 AM said...

soothing background nasyeed -- and beautiful reminders - barakallahu fik.

a.j. says:
at: February 21, 2010 at 10:34 AM said...

barakkallahu fik ... love to share!

Rumaiza Ali says:
at: February 22, 2010 at 10:37 PM said...

what a lovely post. thank you for sharing :)

a.j. says:
at: February 22, 2010 at 11:11 PM said...

happy to share